tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6595600236357741760.post1213667349134603787..comments2023-10-18T10:57:53.634-03:00Comments on Loving {Almost} Every Moment...: Duh!Kathttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05724365531064024636noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6595600236357741760.post-42443346206731762342012-02-12T11:03:56.091-04:002012-02-12T11:03:56.091-04:00As requested I finally got a moment to write about...As requested I finally got a moment to write about our lists!<br /><br />Here it is:<br /><br /><a href="http://toloveeverymoment.blogspot.com/2012/02/tv-list.html" rel="nofollow">Our List</a>Kathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05724365531064024636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6595600236357741760.post-16782767376358371702012-02-08T18:08:58.623-04:002012-02-08T18:08:58.623-04:00Do you want to share your list?Do you want to share your list?Prof. Hannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15300702154669290410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6595600236357741760.post-51540846270627237922012-02-01T03:57:42.330-04:002012-02-01T03:57:42.330-04:00I really enjoyed reading this post. I have a son ...I really enjoyed reading this post. I have a son who is 2.5 and a 5 mo old baby girl. My son also had a lot of tantrums and problems with violence. His tantrums have started to lessen since he has been talking a lot more lately and able to communicate his feelings. But he still hits, throws things, and occasionally bites. Reading your thoughts about the influence of TV was very helpful. We actually don't have a TV at the moment but my son watches DVDs on a portable DVD player and he watches TV at my parents' house. His choices are limited and I can't think of any violence in them but now I have to rewatch the shows to make sure. Could you possibly publish your "banned" list? I'd love to see what's on it to see if there's something I'm missing.Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06827447590592014995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6595600236357741760.post-71412907277045134292012-01-17T22:56:52.598-04:002012-01-17T22:56:52.598-04:00I need to try this. Baby T doesn't really have...I need to try this. Baby T doesn't really have a problem with violence, but we tend to have a major disconnect when he has tantrums. I need to start being more empathetic and practicing staylistening. I think it's amazing that you actually did become so present that you realized the TV thing was the culprit. If you hadn't stopped and started listening, you may not have realized that!Tmuffin.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10592514671182799581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6595600236357741760.post-47807175154192224892012-01-11T11:32:30.868-04:002012-01-11T11:32:30.868-04:00What a great gentle parenting 'experiment'...What a great gentle parenting 'experiment' more like a real shift in family dynamics! I want to try the 'stay listening' too. I think it's really important that boys especially are given time to cry and tantrum with a compassionate and loving presence...too much of the outside world wants them to hold it all in and act tough. You are raising a boy into a man who will be emotionally literate and for that I give thanks! <br /><br />As for the TV...I hear you! We don't have one but let the kids watch certain things from You Tube... I keep it very simple for them and restrict the amount they watch each day, which is not cool in some circles but I feel it necessary for my two little ones. I also talk to them about the things they are watching a lot and translate it into our real life experiences to encourage their active viewing rather than passive watching. Overall there is soooo much more fun to be had than watching a screen so it's limited. Kudos to you Mama on being so connected.Terrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09684698960387428709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6595600236357741760.post-67648103530300156522012-01-10T21:05:27.003-04:002012-01-10T21:05:27.003-04:00Thank you for stopping by to read and for taking t...Thank you for stopping by to read and for taking the time to comment. I really do love and appreciate the community the Carnival has created and nurtured! I look forward to reading all your posts too!Kathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05724365531064024636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6595600236357741760.post-26833585331444637072012-01-10T20:42:46.581-04:002012-01-10T20:42:46.581-04:00Thank you for sharing this post for the carnival. ...Thank you for sharing this post for the carnival. At times, I was in tears about the real connection you have with your children. It's beautiful to see the love grow and support these beings on their path. I think so often, it's difficult for parents to get past that truly uncomfortable first part and face the real work of compassion when they may not have received it in their own childhood. It's incredibly healing and rewarding to both the parents and the children when the attempt is made.Zoie @ TouchstoneZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08688056216105729821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6595600236357741760.post-549858852721340892012-01-10T18:50:07.726-04:002012-01-10T18:50:07.726-04:00What a wonderful article. Your kids are so blessed...What a wonderful article. Your kids are so blessed to have such caring and present parents. <br /><br />I really appreciated your walking us through the process of staylistening. Your mention of the violence in the TV shows makes so much sense, too. Mikko (at 4) is still <i>very</i> sensitive to violence (fortunately, since Sam & I are not as much aware!), but I will keep that in mind as his little brother gets old enough to be watching shows with him.Lauren Waynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07500733577920040395noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6595600236357741760.post-90320371423445800732012-01-10T15:41:52.971-04:002012-01-10T15:41:52.971-04:00Sounds like you had 2 A-ha moments here! First wit...Sounds like you had 2 A-ha moments here! First with the amazing results from stay listening and second with the TV watching. Don't be too hard on yourself though- the TV violence can be subtle, like you said, and it's hard to block it all. And now that you are aware of it, you're making changes- bravo! <br /><br />I love the staylistening, though. That was eye opening for me. Thanks for the link!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6595600236357741760.post-51401545896234345692012-01-10T15:29:56.546-04:002012-01-10T15:29:56.546-04:00This is a lovely heart-warming post. I admire you...This is a lovely heart-warming post. I admire you for taking the gentle path, because it's not always easy to bring peace to the home. We also have to be very careful about TV/films in our household. In fact we don't have a TV at home because I still don't think my 4 year old are ready. Love to you and your family.TwinMamahttp://gentlyparentingtwins.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6595600236357741760.post-9182197258137141202012-01-10T13:14:48.272-04:002012-01-10T13:14:48.272-04:00Kieran has always been very sensitive to violence ...Kieran has always been very sensitive to violence as well, and his viewing options are still very limited. But I am worried about when he gets older and Ailia wants to watch too. Heck, I'm worried about Ailia wanting to watch at all before age 2. It's good to hear that your kiddos were cool with stepping back on their selections!Dionna @ Code Name: Mamahttp://codenamemama.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6595600236357741760.post-26055722811844746912012-01-10T09:59:08.492-04:002012-01-10T09:59:08.492-04:00What a beautiful story! I love how aware and respo...What a beautiful story! I love how aware and responsive you were, to think beyond the obvious and find a way to help your son. I'm sure the benefits of this "experiment" and the changes to follow with be with for a very long time. I'm really interested to dive in to some of the links you posted as well - I can always use more tools for supporting my own toddler through her big emotions.<br /><br />Thank you for sharing this!melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16698231692999838673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6595600236357741760.post-61803431461144252742012-01-10T09:00:32.074-04:002012-01-10T09:00:32.074-04:00Mama Sleuth! I like your experiment, especially th...Mama Sleuth! I like your experiment, especially the happy outcome. I admire your dedication to keeping the peacefulness in your home, in your child's mind. I had to admit, my own daughter has the occasional rants about guns which shocked me until I realized she was simply discussing/acting-out what she'd seen me watch on my Kindle Fire. They notice EVERYTHING, these little ones! And don't know how to react. But you did. Listen and understand. How many of us could use a bit more of that in our lives. Thanks so much for sharing.Thomasinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12611683322412116684noreply@blogger.com