This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Code Name: Mama and Hobo Mama.
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I've been thinking long and hard about what traditions our family has. Off the top of my head I couldn't really think of anything besides Christmas things {it's that time of year after all!}. Upon further thought, I was delighted to realize that we do in fact have many little traditions that make our family life quite memorable. In the early fall we go apple picking. We have pictures of these moments since Maddie was 16 months old. In the winter we celebrate Christmas. This is a time of year full of family, food and making memorable memories. One little tradition that has stuck over the years is that my parents, brother and our little family do a "Secret Santa" gift exchange which is always fun, and helps reduce the consumerism around this special holiday. We also enjoy sledding and skating and building stuff out of snow. Winter is actually only enjoyable to me because of the kiddos! In the Spring we start planning the garden and start seedlings indoors. We so enjoy the anticipation of the end of winter, looking forward to the warmth and explosion of new life. In the Summer we get out of the city and head to Ken's parents' cottage whenever we get the chance. It's the perfect place to relax and spend time in Nature. Every year we can do just a bit more with the kiddos and I look forward to the day when we can go on kayak excursions and exploring the rivers in the area. Summertime is also full of swimming, playgrounds, beaches and picnics. Our favorite thing to do is pack up a lunch and head to the playground where we stay until it's nap time.
All these are the ways in which we enjoy each season.
But I also have to share two of my most favorite, everyday, simple-but-lovely traditions.
Every Sunday we head over to my parents' home for dinner. This tradition started a long time ago, I honestly can't recall when. Maybe it's just the way things have always been I do remember though that when we were dating, Ken would come over and have Sunday dinner with us. And it has stuck all these years: I moved out and got married, my brother moved out, Ken and I had a baby, and then another. And all through these years my amazing mama has prepared her delicious food and welcomed us into the comfort of their home. Sometimes others join us too. Friends, other family members, or new friends. But it's always a lovely time. And I honestly look forward to the day I can do the same for my children and grandkids.
And every night, I sing to my kiddos before they go to sleep. Over the years we have sung different songs, but a few are always the favorites and often requested. Sometimes I even make up songs. I love lulling them to sleep with the sound of my voice. It may not be the most amazing voice ever, but to them it is. It's comforting, soothing and familiar. It relaxes them and tells them everything is safe because these lullabies are the perfect bookend to the day; just as they have been since they were in my belly.
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- Traditions? What traditions? — Olivia at Write About Birth needs your advice: how can she make the most of the holiday season in a new country with only her immediate family? (@writeaboutbirth)
- TRADITION!!!!!! — Ella at My Intentional Journey reminds us all to be thankful for family traditions; there are those who have none.
- tradition! — Stefanie at Very, Very Fine came to realize that families can make incredible memories, even if they're not wealthy (or organized).
- Taking a child's perspective on traditions — Lauren at Hobo Mama wants to keep in mind how important even the mundane traditions will be to her little ones. (@Hobo_Mama)
- Sunday Dinners and Lullabies — Kat at Loving {Almost} Every Moment finds traditions in the small things throughout the year.
- Simple Family Advent Traditions — Michelle at The Parent Vortex crafted a set of advent bags with daily surprises to eat and to do. (@TheParentVortex)
- Parenting: Family Meetings - A Timeless Tradition — Amy Phoenix at Innate Wholeness discusses a year-round tradition in her household: Family Meetings. (@InnateWholeness)
- Our Mindful Holidays — They may not be "traditional" traditions, but they fit the family of Kellie at Our Mindful Life.
- Our Holiday Traditions, New and Old — Even with three young children, Kristin at Intrepid Murmurings is finding ways to be intentional and meaningful about holiday traditions. (@sunfrog)
- Our Cupcake Custom — Amy at Anktangle knows celebrations need minimal excuse and lots of cupcakes! (@anktangle)
- On the bunny slope of tradition-making — Jessica Claire at Crunchy-Chewy Mama is finding her groove as a holistic-minded mama with a joyful holiday spirit. (@crunchychewy)
- No, Virginia, There Is Not a Santa Claus — Just because her family is not going to do Santa, does not mean that Sheila at A Gift Universe can't instill some mystery and magic into Christmas. (@agiftuniverse)
- New Traditions — Becky at Future Legacy shares a few traditions she is starting for her family, including popovers, a birthday banner, and service.
- My Holiday Family Traditions — The Artsymama continues a long tradition of adopting family members and sharing two favorite games that work well for a crowd.
- Mindfully Creating Family Traditions — Alison at BluebirdMama has ideas for celebrating birthdays, Valentine's Day, and Christmas — though her family's still figuring some of it out. (@bluebirdmama)
- Memorable Traditions — Lori Ann at MamaWit follows four mindful steps when instituting any tradition.
- Let's Talk Traditions — Lily, aka Witch Mom shares her family's traditions that are centered on the wheel of the year. (@lilyshahar)
- Homeschool Christmas — Deb Chitwood at Living Montessori Now did not always celebrate the Christmas season in the same way with her family, but they always celebrated together. (@DebChitwood)
- Holidays, food and family — For Kristen at Adventures in Mommyhood, the holidays are about family and food. (@crunchymamato2)
- Giving Christmas to the Critter — Rachael at The Variegated Life has found a way to tie her Zen practices to the Christmas story of the baby in the manger. (@RachaelNevins)
- Family Traditions + To Santa Or Not To Santa — Stop by Natural Parents Network to discover some of the traditions from other natural parents. NPN is also featuring snippets of posts from NP bloggers on the topic of whether to encourage children to believe in Santa Claus. (@NatParNet)
- Family Tradition Origins — Momma Jorje discusses her family's traditions, and her desire not to make anyone feel obligated to conform to them.
- Everyday Traditions — For Mandy at Living Peacefully with Children it's the small, daily traditions that make life special.
- Establishing Traditions and Older Child Adoption — MrsH at Fleeting Moments is trying to find ways to start traditions with a family that was made very quickly through birth and adoption.
- Emerging Family Traditions — Melodie at Breastfeeding Moms Unite! shares some of her favorite birthday and Christmas traditions. (@bfmom)
- Does Rebellion Count? — Seonaid at the Practical Dilettante has instituted a day of rest and PJs at her house on Christmas. (@seonaid_lee)
- December Carnival of Natural Parenting: Family Traditions — Sybil at Musings of a Milk Maker tries to give her girls a mix of traditions to foster togetherness — but worries that not being near extended family is a disconnect.
- Craft-tea Christmas Celebrations — Lucy at Dreaming Aloud created a delicious Christmas tradition that she named "Craft-tea."
- A Christmas Tradition — Luschka at Diary of a First Child knows that even though she won't be able to have her usual holiday traditions this year, the important thing is that she has her family. (@lvano)
- Celebrations without the Holiday — Asha at Meta Mom shares several ways to celebrate the winter holidays without focusing on religious traditions. (@metamomma)
- Celebrating the Journey We Have Traveled Together — Acacia at Be Present enjoys the chance to draw closer to her family during the Christmas holiday.
- Celebrating Motherhood — Do you celebrate the day you became a mother? Dionna at Code Name: Mama offers some ideas for traditions to mark your passage into motherhood. (@CodeNameMama)
- Celebrate! Winter Traditions Brought Home. — At True Confessions of a Real Mommy, TrueRealMommy and her family are celebrating many different religions and traditions this month. Stop by to see their schedule of events. (@TrueRealMommy)
- "Always Ready", Holiday Style — Amy at Toddler In Tow discovered that it's not the traditions themselves, but the emotional experience behind them that makes them special.
I love singing lullabies, when Bridget was a year old she was hard to get down to sleep and our routine included a couple of stories and 6 or 7 different lullabies. Somewhere along the way I experienced a night where she was still struggling to fall asleep and I was tired of singing the songs - so I made up a little lullaby called dream fairies. It has become a favorite and some nights now she crawls up onto her bed and puts her head down and the only words she speaks are her request - "dream fairies"
ReplyDeleteI also love the random other made up songs that have been sung to her ussually during moments that we are both a little distressed by the fact that she is not asleep.. wish I could remember some of those songs now.
I really like the idea of a weekly family dinner. My father-in-law's family in Georgia do that every Friday. I'd like to see if we could do something similar up here someday.
ReplyDeleteWe sing songs before bed, too. Beanie has her favorites, but lately has been asking for funny songs about what we did during the day.
Awww, I just got a little misty-eyed reading about your lullabies (sniff). I alternate between singing lullabies and whispering (memorized) good night books to Kieran. Sometimes music works, sometimes he needs just the soothing sound of the spoken word.
ReplyDeleteAnd I wish we could do weekly family dinners. I've talked to both grandparents about regular dinners, but so far no one has bitten :( Maybe I should just open up OUR home and see who shows up...
Oh I love the idea of Sunday night dinners with extended family! SO jealous that you are able to do that. What a special thing.
ReplyDeleteI think I also agree that winter time becomes more enjoyable when you have kids. Of course, we don't get much snow in Seattle where I live, but when we do, I totally turn in to a kid again!
So glad I found your blog through CarNatPar!
You've really inspired me with this post to think small when I consider what traditions we have. I also do the lullabies thing, and you're right that it really is a beautiful tradition — but it's so easy for me to forget that our kids come to see it that way! Thanks for prompting me to think about some of the traditions that come with every season and everyday life.
ReplyDeleteHow lucky you are to live close enough to your parents to have weekly family dinners! What a great tradition! I, too, have so many happy memories of singing lullabies to my children when they were very little. When they were older, we sang together - and that was wonderful, too!
ReplyDeleteDeb @ LivingMontessoriNow.com